A Tomboy Should Never Become A Slut
When I was about 11-12 years old I went through a hardcore tomboy phase. I played basketball, wore baggy clothes, and hung out with nothing but boys. As girly as I am now, its hard to believe that I went through such a boyish period in my life. Looking back and being completely honest with myself, I’m pretty sure that in my boy crazed frenzy, I assumed the role of the teenage Queen Latifa just so that I had an excuse to be around them more often without getting in trouble with my mom…as a matter of fact I’m 100% certain that this was the reason. At some point I realized that the tomboy phase wasn’t getting me anywhere because the boys that I liked usually liked girls that wore sexy cocktail dresses like this…
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and good for me, I felt much more comfortable and at home like this anyway.
When I came out of that phase I shed the baggy clothes, put down the basketball and slipped into a pair of 5 inch heals and a sexy mini dress. I felt more comfortable than ever before but I never stopped hanging around boys. To this day I still hang out with guys a lot! Some of my best friends are men. I often find myself in social settings when I’m the only girl in a group of men. And most of the time I don’t even realize that I’m the only girl until the end of the night.
Other than the fact that I truly love my boys, the major perk about being in the boys club is that I am privy to some pretty sensitive info. I know more about the way that men think than any other woman that I know. Throughout the years, I have learned some pretty cool tricks and tips about the male psyche that I have used to my advantage. Tips and tricks that I have used in friendships, relationships, and in business. There is one tip that is so useful that I feel the need to share. So important that I need you to write it down. So valuable, that I want you to brand it in your brain…
Here it is…MEN GOSSIP THREE TIMES AS MUCH AS WOMEN. Don’t ever forget this. They tell their friends EVERYTHING that happens between you two. Every graphic detail! Now, I know that not all men gossip; there is the 80/20 rule…80% of men gossip, and 20% are the exception to the rule….where the first 10% are keeping their mouths shut because they are secretly gay (not that there’s anything wrong with it) and the other 10% are truly honorable men. But generally speaking, men gossip like women in a hair salon. If you are a single unmarried dating woman, trust me when I tell you that you would regurgitate every meal from the past seven days if you knew what your guy has been saying about you. Every detail, every word, every move has been documented and hung out to dry.
Every woman wants to maintain her exclusivity (not be labeled as a slut). But you are only as exclusive as the public’s ignorance of you. People can’t talk about what they don’t know. With that being said I have developed 3 simple rules for single women to keep their names out of male gossip columns…or you can also call these 3 rules “How to Avoid Being a Slut” .
How To Avoid Being a Slut
You Will Always Avoid Being a Slut If He Loves You
1) Only get intimate with someone who is madly in love with you. Men don’t gossip about women that they are in love with. If he loves you, he doesn’t want his friends to know anything negative about you. And it doesn’t matter if you’re in love with him or not. As long as he’s totally in to you he’s not going to share any dirty info about you and you will never be the hot topic in “Sluts Weekly”.
Hot in the Pants? Find a Square
2) If you currently don’t have someone worshiping the ground that you walk on and you still feel like you HAVE to “handle your business”, then only get intimate with someone so square and so corny that no one knows him. Only handle your business with someone so square that no one expects it and someone so far removed from your circle that no one will find out. Personally, I don’t practice this rule and I stick with #1 and #3 below, but some women are a little hotter in the pants than others. I have a friend who just needs it all the time and her reputation was spreading like wildfire so I developed this rule for her. Steve Urkel can talk about you to his friends all he wants but who cares, he doesn’t know any one that you do. But most likely he probably won’t because he’s so excited that you even gave him the time of day that he probably put down the down payment on the engagement ring before you can even wake up and get dressed.
Save It Slut!
3) Or you can always go the good old fashioned route of saving it. This is the best way and only sure fire way to avoid being the featured slut in the male gossip columns.
Now that you know this info, when I hang out with my boys I don’t want to hear anymore stories about you being a slut anymore, OK?
Yes! Finally, someone with advice a little closer to home. I went through that same tomboyish phase, and now I’m as girly as all get out.
But honestly, if a girl follows advice perk #3, she’ll never be labeled as anything but a fantastic girl who’s worth every moment!
Thanks again,
Delena
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Thanks for the comment Delena. I agree with you, #3 is the best but #1 and #2 are necessary.
True, but is it really a problem if a girl is a tomboy?
If she feel good about it, I don’t see the problems. There are guys who like girls in pants and there are guys who like girls in cocktail dresses.
That’s the way it is.
Now that stats are really new for me that most of the men gossip much more then women. It has to be true I am sure about that.
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…my holy God.
it just occurs to me that #2 probably the only reason why i get any play @ all these days.
which, oddly enough, actually doesn’t bother me THAT much, upon further reflection. for an Urkel, i’m pretty effin’ cool, if i do say so myself.
…or, @ least, i’m relatively well hung. i think i’ll stop talking now.
you are so funny Taylor! It doesnt matter why you get play, as long as you get play. And you are pretty cool for an Urkel. And I have no idea if you’re hung or not but thanks for volunteering the info.
You look hot in that dress girl.. Rock it.
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Totally agree! You look fantastic. Blue looks great on you and the dress have a nice cut.
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Way back in high school, I spent quite a lot of time with the girls and I can authoritatively say that guys are beating the ladies when it comes to gossip, even when it involves a close friend of theirs.
BTW Nice pins
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I really enjoyed your article and think this advice needs to also be shared with every mother on the planet. I currently have a 13 year old daughter who has just left the tomboy phase and this article gave me some great pointers on what to tell her now that she wants to be a girly girl. I really emphasized number 1, not telling her about number 2 and will discuss number 3 when she gets over the shock of listening to her mother talk about sex!
Share this with every mother you know, it is important for us to talk to our daughters!
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Hey Estava, I couldn’t help posting a comment. This post will surely give guys reasons to blush ! I appreciate your candid exposure ! However, I feel rule #2 will let both the sexes to have more freedom to gossip. Won’t it ?
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Perhaps you are right. But there is that perfect balance of finding someone so unknown that no matter how many people he tells, the news will never get to your inner circle.
Wow, great post. I like these tips.
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Hey Nikki, i liked this article. Im so proud of you! Keep up the good work! And i did see a couple dresses im going to have to order…..Erica
Thanks Erica!!! Let me know if you have any questions
Love this subject! it wouldnt be a question if you sure are really about someone. You will always feel it and action speaks louder than words. I dont mind being intimate with your partner just as long as you’re sure about what you feel and do and ready about any consequences the relationship may turn out. If you could save it for the right one, that would be perfect! I mean, could someone really do that? I must say, pretty sure there are still a few of us (LOL!!!!) out there!
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Estava you said:
“At some point I realized that the tomboy phase wasn’t getting me anywhere because the boys that I liked usually liked girls that wore sexy cocktail dresses like this…”
Would this not mean that the boys you liked could have also been shallow and only looking at a girl on the outside and not taking the time to look at the entire package. Me personally not sure if I would even want this type of individual in my life he is only concerned with how one dresses.
BTW you do look stunning in the dress!
Cynthia
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Hey Cynthia, thanks for the comment and complement! I think at that point I was just trying to find myself. Without a doubt, those boys were shallow. no question about that. But on the other hand, men are visual creatures and I dont think there is anything that we can do to change that.
Michael is right- you should not be looking for attention from men who take this shallow attitude. You deserve much more than this and will definitely be happier once you find somebody who appreciates you for who you are. I’m glad that you’ve obviously grown in confidence and have a much greater sense of self worth now. As you say, it’s a fact that men are visual creatures however nobody should feel under pressure to change themselves because of this. Confidence and self assurance are two of the most attractive qualities in a woman and being yourself really demonstrates both of these.
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Ok, that picture looks hot!
So did any of this tomboy stuff pay off? You must have a mean left hook : )
Whoooa. #1 is too hard to find these days. That’s not mission impossible, but ALMOST.
Will definitely agree with tip #3. No sweat.
Regards,
Amber
“MEN GOSSIP THREE TIMES AS MUCH AS WOMEN.” This is an interesting information. I did not know about this until now. Well, I think I must be careful in telling stories with the boys.
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First of all, I am pretty sure women gossip more. I lack statistics, but so does this woman. She is basing this on her personal experience. Second, to avoid being labeled as a slut, one should avoid being one.Women should not be promiscuous anyway, no matter what others think. Third, this woman encouraged manipulating men for sexual gain on Rule #1. The next rule shows how superficial this woman is. She will not sleep with “dorky and corny” men. Lastly, women do not get “hot in the pants”; they are trying to rebel against the norms or be stylish.